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While on queue at the bank...

Ness blog
March 15, 2026•3 min read

Kamusta ka ba talaga?

I’m writing this to you while sitting in a long, cramped line at the bank. My debit card expired after ten years, and even though it’s 2026, I’m still physically lining up for something that should be a simple click away.

At first, I felt that familiar tug of resistance. My mind started its usual loop:This is a waste of time. Why is this so inefficient? I have so much to do.

But then, I remembered the "emotional purging" I’ve been navigating since February.

Recently, I completed a spiritual training in Chiang Mai that changed me, grounded me, and opened up a world I didn’t know existed. It taught me that our mind is a beautiful thing but it needs to be harnessed. When we are stuck in these "waiting moments," we have a choice: we can stay in the restless mind, or we can land back into the heart.

The Shift

While sitting here, I’ve been practicing a little technique. Did you know that a physiological emotional trigger usually only lasts about 90 seconds? If we can just sit with the discomfort without fueling it with more "complaining thoughts," it passes.

I’ve been asking myself three questions while waiting for my number to be called:

  • Is this thought even true?

  • Is it helpful?

  • Does this thought feel expansive, or does it make me feel contracted and small?

If it makes me feel small, I know it’s part of an old "game" I’m no longer playing. As the lyrics fromWickedgo:“Something has changed within me, something is not the same. I'm through with playing by the rules of someone else's game.”

Back to the Heart

In this modern age, we are so tethered to our devices and a constant stream of information that we’ve forgotten what it’s like to simplybein our bodies—to listen to the signals when we're tired, to feel our hearts beat, and to know when it’s time to let our souls exhale. We live in the mind and unconsciously neglect the rest.

I am learning and healing right alongside you. Because of this, I try to offer opportunities for us to practice together. If you feel the need to pause and reconnect, I would love for us to explore simple techniques for "landing back in the heart." It’s a space to settle, to feel, and to become aware of the magic that happens when we stop resisting and start listening.

Next week, we are holding a Heart Healing Session on March 22, from 1:00 to 5:00 PM at the Taal Vista Hotel in Tagaytay. Then, at the end of the month on March 28 at 5:00 PM, we’ll gather for a Meditation Circle specifically for non-meditators. I emphasize that because these circles are truly for anyone who wants to learn. There is something so powerful about being in a room with other hearts learning to be still; the collective energy creates a space of quiet that is hard to find on our own. If you have never meditated in your life, this space is for you. We are all just beginners, after all. Just reply to this email, and I’ll send you the address for our Tagaytay gathering.

Well, look at that—it’s finally my turn at the counter.

I hope you can find a small "waiting moment" today to turn inward and give your heart the space it needs to breathe.

With love,

Ness

P.S. I would love to hear from you. Do you have any tips that you would like to share to the group? How do you land back into your heart when you've had a really challenging day?

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